Here’s a guest post, by my friend “Alfredo.” Enjoy!
Becoming Positive in 2018
My reflex is to complain. I can find fault in anything. Yesterday the bus was late. As I watched cars stream by all I thought was that the system is against me, in all ways, all the time. It seems that my natural lens is a filter for all things Wrong, Unjust, Oppressive, and Selfish. “The bus cost too much.” “My Psychiatrist is out to get me.” “That person was really rude to me.” “I’m going to die young.” And on and on ….
It’s exhausting. This outlook keeps my heart rate regularly high. People have told me I’m toxic: which I understand to mean that I poison social environments with constant complaints. I’ve looked at the world in this way for so long that my brain is structured to default to it. My neurons fire toward complaint, injustice, and unfairness. I see my daily events as evil first.
It’s exhausting and I want to see things in a different way. I want to be positive and generally
. This different way of seeing the world is what I call the Positive Point of View (PPV). It is a way of seeing the world that is charitable to other peoples arguments, that assumes people have good intentions, that hopes for a better world in every thought, phrase, and action.
For me, the PPV is not a reflex; I don’t do it naturally, by impulse, or even by accident. To make PPV part of my daily life will require a constant intention to do so. I can’t do it on my own. I have asked the people I see everyday to help me with regular reminders. I have also put notifications on my phone. It is through the changing of habits that I hope a Positive Point of View will become a part of my daily life and in 2018 I hope to do just that.